Saturday, February 5, 2011

LOVE IS WICKED OR IS IT???

How does a girl wake up and start the day looking like this
then somehow she winds up looking like this
and as if that is not enough her final look at the end of the day is
Don't bother your head trying to guess what it is, it is simply because of man!Yes, Man!Please give it up for the descendants of Adam for having this super-power of just determining your mood all because you love 'em.
THE PARADOX BOY CYCLE
Once upon a time, for a relationship to last,Love was enough but these days if you still think like that, you're on a slippery slope. I mean guys can be the most insensitive beings on earth and we just keep loving 'em and we console ourselves by saying "this too shall pass".*yimu* pass ko, fail ni! I've had a rollercoaster ride when it comes to relationships but apparently God gave me excess optimism which helps a whole lot and sometimes just sets me up for crap!Allow me to give  you a brief history of my boy cycle.
It all started with this super uber cute boy who lived on my street named Babafunmi, my very 1st crush,I was crazy about the boy but then again crushes are stupid!I was 15 and he was 20 but I really didn't care but apparently he did(so he says), the boy knew I liked him and he was just using me to catch trips and that experience left me heartbroken.My very first heartbreak!!!Yay!!!Don't mind me, I live for drama.
Now onto my very 1st real boyfriend by name Dotun and we were in school together. The boy was caring but I think I just drove him crazy as in even I knew that I wasn't normal;it wasn't my fault but its just that its hard for we capricorns to show emotion. Finally, the boy got tired and he broke up with me :(. Then came along Debola, my long-time family friend whom I thought would be the bestest boyfriend ever but I thought wrong. He was sweet and sometimes he'd even cook for me but all he was interested in was putting his vuvuzela in my jabulani(he might tell this story differently but trust me this is the true one) and at that point in my life, my jabulani didn't want any visitors so we had a big problem and I don't know the cow that said this "body no be wood"(Mscheew) so he began to cheat on me(I don't blame him, he was at that age where that was all that mattered) but the mistake he made was letting me know he was cheating and as usual because I couldn't wrap my head around being anyone's No.2, I bailed! Now this next one enh, is the one who spoilt it all for me, its because of him that i hate Valentine's day.I,Adeola Oyeshomo who forms hard but is really a hopeless romantic met Tope on Valentine's day after 5 months of no boys, I fell like a ton of bricks,it was bad!As in,I was very pathetic and that was when this stupid Beyonce girl sang that yeye 'Halo' song.I actually recorded my own video for that song!*smh*I was madly in love with him like I would have done anything for that  guy but sadly this wasn't gonna last.Now that I think about it,I can imagine how irritated my friends must have been back then in school cos every word that came out of my mouth had to do with that boy *smh* for myself again.Anyways, lemme not talk too much,long and short of it,the bobo dumped my ass,and imagine the reason why?Wait for it.......He was busy!!!Like seriously???Busy!!!A whole me,now I might make it seem like it was funny then but menh it was far from funny,the dude did serious damage and I'm suffering for it today!There was a time when hiding my emotions was like child's play for me but i'm sad to say that all those walls i spent years building,one guy who didn't deserve me took 'em down and for the first time ever, I cried,Scratch that,I wept because of Man and this wasn't for one day more like 3 days and the only reason i stopped was because a bus conductor gave me advice cos he saw me crying in the bus!Imagine???Isn't it funny how everyone suddenly becomes Dr. Phil?And that is how I snapped out of it(or so I thought).Moving On>>>>
COULD THIS BE MY VERY OWN ADAM?
Ehn!Agirl can dream right?


There was this guy who I met right about the same time I started dating that goat,I liked him but I couldn't date him cos it was long distance(I hate long distance relationships or so I thought) and so we remained friends. After I got dumped,he was my oasis and I gradually started becoming sane again.Long and short of it,a year later we started dating.Now,I love this boy like I have never loved anybody in my life(I didn't even know I was capable of loving again) but sometimes enh,the boy can be such a pain in the ass.
Baby I know it might take you years before you see this but sometimes I just feel like whacking your head.You are so annoying!!!Ugh!!!!You make me so angry and exhausted with you.Like I could just kill you sometimes.*sighs* but sadly I can't!(will get back to this in a bit)
LOVE IS WICKED
Love is a very wicked sumtin!True!Using Brandy's words, have you ever loved somebody so much it makes you cry?There was a time in my life when I didn't give a shit about love,I mean its overrated but as the famous saying goes "It's better to have loved and lost than to never love at all".If we all loved each other,I think the world would be a better place but my dear brethren, today i am talking about that kind of love that makes your heart beat faster just cos you hear the sound of that special person's voice,the one that makes you want to spend every waking moment with him/her.Yep!that's the one I am talking about.
My dearest Adams reading this post,I know that there are plenty opuro girls out there,I know but please I beg you in the name of God,if a girl says she loves you and she shows it to you continually, please do not treat her like trash,please I am begging,not every body is strong enough to deal with matters of the heart.
My dearest Adams, please I know that God didn't create you guys as the sensitive ones but please I beg of you once again to be sensitive to the way your girl feels,these things do tell on us.
And all you Eves out there,Why must you take it for granted when your guy shows you so much love?Ehn?Even if somebody broke your heart,does that mean that you should start misbehaving?Ehn?At the end of the day,you'll be called a bitch,is it really worth it?
Anyways like I was saying,love is quite wicked!It entails much more than the stolen kisses or cuddles,you need a certain level of grace to love someone unconditionally,I know this because I'm not the easiest person to love.According to the bible,Love is patient,it is kind,it does not envy,it does not boast,it is not proud,it is not rude,it is not self-seeking,it is not easily-angered and it keeps no records of wrongs.Need I say more?
There are times when my boo makes me cry but he makes up for it in the various ways he makes me laugh.
There are times when he is so insensitive and I wonder why I even bother but in more ways than one,He shows me that he cares.
There are times when I just want to give up but God knows that its emotionally impossible for me...I might just go mad finally....yea that's how much I love him
He might decide tomorrow that he wants to leave me,yea love is wicked that way but you know what, cos of those happy moments i get to share with him,
Its all worth it!!!
Until next time,
toodles

1 comment:

  1. Missed reading ur writtings.... Looking 4ward 2 episode 2.Dis wz propa interesting.

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